A new father’s view of circumcision

Finding out that you’re going to be a parent is an exciting, yet surreal, moment.

But, if you’ve got a boy on the way, one of the decisions you’ll need to make is whether his penis will circumcised or not. This is the decision that my fianceé left to me last year when we found out the sex.

Anna was indifferent about it, and I just assumed our boy would be circumcised, mostly because I am myself. We also live in the United States (New Jersey to be particular) and it just seemed like something everybody does.

Read the full article at the following link:
http://sites.google.com/site/completebaby/father

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  1. Bryan

    I first heard about mgm when I was about 11 years of age. Now, why would they do that, I wondered. There must be a reason. They wouldn’t do that without a good reason, would they? So I kept my eyes and ears open… always on the look-out for that reason, but I’ve never found it. In fact over the last 50 years I’ve learned that there is not one good reason for mutilating our sons. I have learned that the harm caused by that procedure is far greater than any ‘perceived’ benefit. I have learned that the North American public, as well as Australia, New Zealand, and to some extent England, have all been lied to about the medical necessity of genitally mutilating our baby boys.
    They mutilated David Reimer (google his name, or the John/Joan Story) before he was a year old because the doctor claimed he had phimosis. David didn’t have phimosis (his twin brother was also diagnosed with phimosis but wasn’t operated on). In fact I’ve learned that true phimosis probably can’t be correctly diagnosed until after a boy has gone through puberty.
    But my main reason for commenting on your article is your comments on cleaning an intact boy. There is a certain amount of hysteria surrounding the cleaning of intact boys. Yes, as you say, there is a lot of info on the internet containing advice for parents on how to care for intact boys, but much of it is incorrect. Basically there is very little to cleaning intact boys. We have been led to believe that all kinds of crud will build up under the foreskin. This isn’t true. Much information on the web will stress the importance of retracting the foreskin to clean under it, and at some point to teach the boy to do the same. This is wrong. Nobody should attempt to retract the foreskin of a young boy… not the doctor, not a nurse, not the mother, not grandma, nor anyone who might be baby sitting the child. Nor should the mother encourage the child to try retract it himself. Retracting the foreskin on young boys, before it’s ready to be retracted, is what causes most of the harm to young intact boys. If you take your son to the doctor for his 6-month, 1-year, or18-month checkup and he or she attempts to retract your son’s foreskin… put a stop to it immediately… find yourself another doctor if possible. This North American hysteria about that ‘filthy’ foreskin leads to unnecessary problems for intact sons. The very first time a boy’s foreskin is retracted it should be done by the boy himself, when he is ready, on his own terms. He will generally not retract it until after he has gone through puberty. Previous to puberty the foreskin is best left alone, cleaning only the outside of the penis, not under the foreskin. If the foreskin is left alone it will remain bonded to the head of the penis for many years, possibly even right up to puberty.
    How do you teach a boy to properly clean his genitals? When he’s little you teach him proper hygiene. Teach him to clean behind his ears. Teach him to clean the dirt from under his fingernails. Teach him to wash his hands before eating, and after using the washroom. Teach him to brush his teeth every night after supper. Teach him to bath on a regular basis. Teach him to shampoo his hair. Like I said… teach him good hygiene, and when he reaches puberty and retracts his foreskin for the first time, he will automatically clean under it. He doesn’t need a demonstration. He doesn’t need his penis checked after a bath to see if he cleaned it. He doesn’t have to be sent to the doctor for instructions. Cleaning a penis isn’t rocket science, in fact it’s one of the simplest and easiest things in the world to do.
    Again we have a built-in North American hysteria surrounding the intact male. An unjustified hysteria. By comparison, why don’t we hear anything about the cleaning of a girl’s vagina? It is a much larger area to keep clean, and it bleeds for a few days every month, yet no instructions on the web about the proper way to clean an intact girl. Why so much hysteria about the ‘uncleanness’ of an intact boy, but only silence about the ‘unclean’ vaginas? There’s way to much hype connected to the cleaning of an intact boy. This unnatural hype often leads to problems for intact boys. For the most part, just leave their penises alone and everything will work out great.

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